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  • cApitaland
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  • purpledragon84
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  • Daisuke-kun
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  • cApitaland
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    • 24 Jul `08, 8:58PM

      Ahh.. get jealous easily when I see her talking to other guys.  Must be more mature in my thinking ! devil.png

  • fairlady_xoxo
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  • purpledragon84
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    • 24 Jul `08, 9:05PM
      Originally posted by cApitaland:

      Ahh.. get jealous easily when I see her talking to other guys.  Must be more mature in my thinking ! devil.png

      wait.. is she ur gf already?

      why do u get jealous that she talks to other guys..?

      u scared other guys sweet-talk her issit?

      when over-possessiveness occurs, only two possible reasons..

      1. u don't trust her.

      2. u don't have faith in yourself.

      food for thought: how will u feel if she gets worked up everytime u talk to a girl? no matter how ugly the girl u talked to was? she's just irritated u are talking to a girl.. can u tolerate someone like that?

  • cApitaland
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    • 24 Jul `08, 9:11PM
      Originally posted by purpledragon84:

      wait.. is she ur gf already?

      why do u get jealous that she talks to other guys..?

      u scared other guys sweet-talk her issit?

      when over-possessiveness occurs, only two possible reasons..

      1. u don't trust her.

      2. u don't have faith in yourself.

      food for thought: how will u feel if she gets worked up everytime u talk to a girl? no matter how ugly the girl u talked to was? she's just irritated u are talking to a girl.. can u tolerate someone like that?

      erm wait. over possessiveness ? i dun think i reach that stage .. nope not my gf but someone i haf a crush on. hais.

      gotta think this through. thanks for the help :D

  • Karma88
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  • 00king00
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    • 24 Jul `08, 10:18PM

      it's natural when u hav a crush on someone, cos u only want her for yrself

      the best way to overcome it... make her yours

  • BeRt^.^
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  • Chyeo1979
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    • 24 Jul `08, 10:55PM
      Originally posted by cApitaland:

       nope not my gf but someone i haf a crush on. hais.

       

      that's jealous, not possessive

  • wonderamazement
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  • ispyyy
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    • 25 Jul `08, 1:13AM

      Redirect yr focus to other things( like yr career, like some hobbies that both of u share, like blah blah)

       

  • maskedangel
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    • 25 Jul `08, 1:29AM

      IMO, its human nature.

      for my case, i don wanna lose someone i like, but by doing so, and putting restriction on the other party, it made it worst.

      What u can do is actually nothinh. juz swallow it all and like what others say, trust her.

  • purpledragon84
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    • 25 Jul `08, 1:33AM
      Originally posted by cApitaland:

      erm wait. over possessiveness ? i dun think i reach that stage .. nope not my gf but someone i haf a crush on. hais.

      gotta think this through. thanks for the help :D

       

      and just go talk to her lo.. she single issit? if yes, of coz will talk to any guy that talks to her.. free speech leh lol..

      at this point in time, when not steady, still crush, confirm will jealous one la.. coz u feel the urge to want to have her attention and stuff.. just don't overdo it haha..

  • maskedangel
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  • Darrenchoo
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    • 25 Jul `08, 11:14AM

      someone told me relationships are like food. and jealousy is the chilli that spices up the relationship. sometimes its painful, but overall, it tastes good. if u really like the dish, u will bear with the spice. hope this helps?

  • RedizAlertz
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    • 25 Jul `08, 11:17AM

      To prevant possessiveness...one must have

      1) Faith in the r'ship

      2) Confident in ownself

      3) Trust for ur partner.

      But wait!  She's not even urs?  Then it's not possessive lar, it's simply jealousy.  Anyway, being possessive is a best way to kill a r'ship. icon_twisted.gif

      Edited by RedizAlertz 25 Jul `08, 11:20AM
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